This week my blog is really going to be one topic broken down to separate blogs so as to not over whelm my readers. Also will give people time to make comments or arguments on what I have talked about in that days blog.
So here is Part 1. . . .
I've asked all my friends where they stand on equal rights for homosexuals. And most of them told me that they're in favor of equal rights for homosexuals. My friends said yes when it came to gays having the same rights in housing, jobs, public accommodations, and equal access to government benefits, equal protection of the law, etcetera, etcetera.
But then I brought up gay marriage. And that's when all this talk of equality stopped dead cold.
I was amazed when I learned that nearly seventy percent of people in the United States actually oppose gay marriage, yet almost the same proportion are otherwise supportive of gay rights. This means that many of the same people who are even passionately in favor of gay rights oppose gays on this one issue.
I understand that there is a lot of misunderstanding about what homosexuality really is, as well as the erroneous assumption that gay people enjoy the same civil rights protections as everyone else. There are also a lot of stereotypes about gay relationships, and even a great deal of misunderstanding of what marriage itself is all about.
The purpose of this series of blogs this week is to clear up a few of these misunderstandings and discuss some of the facts surrounding gay relationships and marriage, gay and straight.
First, lets discuss what gay relationships are really all about. The stereotype has it that gays are promiscuous, unable to form lasting relationships, and the relationships that do form are shallow and uncommitted. And gays do have such relationships!
But the important fact to note is that just like in straight society, where such relationships also exist, they are a small minority, and exist primarily among the very young. Indeed, one of the most frequent complaints of older gay men is that it is almost impossible to find quality single men to get into a relationship with, because they're already all ‘taken’!
If you attend any gay event, such as a Pride festival or a PFLAG convention, you'll find this to be true. As gays age and mature, just like their straight cohorts, they begin to appreciate and find their way into long-term committed relationships.
The values that such gay couples exhibit in their daily lives are often indistinguishable from those of their straight neighbors. They're loyal to their mates, are monogamous, devoted partners. They value and participate in family life, are committed to making their neighborhoods and communities safer and better places to live, and honor and abide by the law. Many make valuable contributions to their communities, serving on school boards, volunteering in community charities, and trying to be good citizens. In doing so, they take full advantage of their relationship to make not only their own lives better, but those of their neighbors as well.
A benefit to heterosexual society of gay marriage is the fact that the commitment of a marriage means the participants are discouraged from promiscuous sex. This has the advantage of slowing the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, which know no sexual orientation and are equal opportunity destroyers.
So, having established the value of gay marriage, why are people so opposed to it?
Many of the reasons offered for opposing gay marriage are based on the assumption that gays have a choice in who they can feel attracted to, and the reality is quite different. Many people actually believe that gays could simply choose to be heterosexual if they wished. But the reality is that very few do have a choice -- any more than very few heterosexuals could choose which sex to find themselves attracted to.
Additionally, many people continue to believe that homosexuality is about nothing but sex, considering it to be merely a sexual perversion. The reality is that homosexuality is multidimensional, and is much more about love and affection than it is about sex. And this is what gay relationships are based on -- mutual attraction, love and affection. Sex is a means of expressing that love, just the same as it is for heterosexuals. Being gay is much more profound than simply a sexual relationship; being gay is part of that person's core identity, and goes right to the very center of his being. It's like being black in a society of whites, or a blonde European in a nation of black-haired Asians. Yes, being gay is just that profound to the person who is. This is something that few heterosexuals can understand unless they are a minority themselves.
Stay tune for the next installment tomorrow.
MJ
Monday, August 31, 2009
Friday, August 28, 2009
I'm Going 10/11/2009!!! Are You???
I am going in October are you? The National Equality March will take place on October 10-11, 2009, in Washington, D.C. Come join people from all over America show their voice and let our elected leaders know that now is the time for full equal rights for LGBTQ people. This march is a way for us to trying and secure full equality in all 50 states. People may say that this march is pointless, but look back to the years 1963 and 64 when the historic civil rights movement made its transition from fighting local battles to winning national victory with the passage of the civil rights act. It’s time for LGBTQ Americans to receive these same civil rights.
On October 11 everyone will gather at approximately noon to officially kick-off our National Equality March. The march route is currently being negotiated with city officials and a final permit is typically given 30 days before the event. The rally will begin at 2:00 p.m. on the west lawn of the Capitol building. Details of the rallies schedule are being finalized and I will post that when I receive it.
Also, please don’t forget the “Brother can you Spare a dime?” campaign going on to help raise money to get buses to go from Chicago to Washington D.C. for the march. Trust me I know times are tough and we are in a recession, but brother or sister can you spare a dime? It's easy to do --- see the button that says donate under Join The Impact Chicago on the left side of your screen, just click it and donate. I am not asking for hundreds of dollars here, just a small donation. All the proceeds raised from this go directly to providing buses for the March on Washington D.C.. I don't need the donations till September 17th (Which is a Thursday). And even if you can't contribute very much, please remember that every little bit helps. How much does it matter? That's for you to decide. In my opinion, there is nothing at stake here except our future.
Plus, if you are in the Chicagoland area you have just one day left before Cleve Jones.
An Evening with Cleve Jones: The Struggle for LGBT Civil Rights
Saturday, August 29th 6:00 – 8:00 pm
Victory Gardens Theater, 2433 N. Lincoln, Red/Brown/Purple Line: Fullerton
$5 suggested donation, to benefit Join the Impact Chicago,
towards buses from Chicago to the National Equality March in DC, October 10th
Tickets are available at: http://www.haymarketbooks.org/event.php?id=21.
MJ
On October 11 everyone will gather at approximately noon to officially kick-off our National Equality March. The march route is currently being negotiated with city officials and a final permit is typically given 30 days before the event. The rally will begin at 2:00 p.m. on the west lawn of the Capitol building. Details of the rallies schedule are being finalized and I will post that when I receive it.
Also, please don’t forget the “Brother can you Spare a dime?” campaign going on to help raise money to get buses to go from Chicago to Washington D.C. for the march. Trust me I know times are tough and we are in a recession, but brother or sister can you spare a dime? It's easy to do --- see the button that says donate under Join The Impact Chicago on the left side of your screen, just click it and donate. I am not asking for hundreds of dollars here, just a small donation. All the proceeds raised from this go directly to providing buses for the March on Washington D.C.. I don't need the donations till September 17th (Which is a Thursday). And even if you can't contribute very much, please remember that every little bit helps. How much does it matter? That's for you to decide. In my opinion, there is nothing at stake here except our future.
Plus, if you are in the Chicagoland area you have just one day left before Cleve Jones.
An Evening with Cleve Jones: The Struggle for LGBT Civil Rights
Saturday, August 29th 6:00 – 8:00 pm
Victory Gardens Theater, 2433 N. Lincoln, Red/Brown/Purple Line: Fullerton
$5 suggested donation, to benefit Join the Impact Chicago,
towards buses from Chicago to the National Equality March in DC, October 10th
Tickets are available at: http://www.haymarketbooks.org/event.php?id=21.
MJ
Thursday, August 27, 2009
My Rant about Gay Marriage
Please try to remember as you read my blog that it is just the opinion of one homosexual male. . . I do not speak for anyone but myself. . . And I am willing to listen to other peoples opinions on this issue and am willing to discuss why I feel the way I feel.
Well here is my rant for today.
I hate that everyone has made gay marriage the biggest issue to hit the queer community. If you recall from one of my previous post, Yes marriage is part of the battle we are fighting, but it is just a part. There are a lot of other issues we are fighting for. Of all the issues that face the queer community, marriage has truly caused the shit to hit the fan. Both for the Right and the Left.For the Right, the mere raising of the subject seems to have the force to bring many a politician to their knees. Who are they to side with? Should they follow their own moral compass or that of the deeply rift-driven public? I believe a lot of politicians has the same reaction to this issue as a lot of you reading this blog - let them get married, who cares? Unfortunately, a large number of their constituents do, be they for or against it.
The younger gay generation (including me) forget that it used to be so simple to make these issues disappear. They would just lock us up. Put us in an institution and give us electro-shock "therapy". We forget that the older queer generation did not have laws that are being passed as we speak to protect them against hate crimes. Everytime someone spotted a "queer" they would beat the living crap out of them. Of course, they never do it alone, they always ganged up on us. But hell we always been just a "minority".
But thank god times have changed. . .Are have they?
And please lets stop saying that we want to having our "love" recognized. Why the fuck should any spouse care that the Federal Government understand their love? Why on earth would you need a Big Brother approval for your love? Do you need a Big Brother approval to justify your own existence? Is our self-esteem so fragile that we cannot live and think for ourselves?
I understand that if we do not continue to observe and fight for our basic rights, we will continue to lose more ground. As quickly as public acceptance of queers has grown over the last decade or so, just as quickly can it vanish.
So let's take a moment to remember why we are activists for our causes.
MJ
PS. . . Don't forget the "Brother can you Spare a Dime" campaign going on now through September 17th. Also there is only 2 days remaining before Cleve Jones talk in Chicago on the Struggle for LGBT civil rights and the National Equality March. Please buy your ticket in advance for only $5 to ensure you get a seat. The doors to Victory Gardens Theater will open at 5:30 and seating is first come, first served. VG will have their cash bar opened to attendees and there will be a live DJ to entertain. TICKETS AVAILABLE AT: http://www.haymarketbooks.org/event.php?id=21.
Well here is my rant for today.
I hate that everyone has made gay marriage the biggest issue to hit the queer community. If you recall from one of my previous post, Yes marriage is part of the battle we are fighting, but it is just a part. There are a lot of other issues we are fighting for. Of all the issues that face the queer community, marriage has truly caused the shit to hit the fan. Both for the Right and the Left.For the Right, the mere raising of the subject seems to have the force to bring many a politician to their knees. Who are they to side with? Should they follow their own moral compass or that of the deeply rift-driven public? I believe a lot of politicians has the same reaction to this issue as a lot of you reading this blog - let them get married, who cares? Unfortunately, a large number of their constituents do, be they for or against it.
The younger gay generation (including me) forget that it used to be so simple to make these issues disappear. They would just lock us up. Put us in an institution and give us electro-shock "therapy". We forget that the older queer generation did not have laws that are being passed as we speak to protect them against hate crimes. Everytime someone spotted a "queer" they would beat the living crap out of them. Of course, they never do it alone, they always ganged up on us. But hell we always been just a "minority".
But thank god times have changed. . .Are have they?
And please lets stop saying that we want to having our "love" recognized. Why the fuck should any spouse care that the Federal Government understand their love? Why on earth would you need a Big Brother approval for your love? Do you need a Big Brother approval to justify your own existence? Is our self-esteem so fragile that we cannot live and think for ourselves?
I understand that if we do not continue to observe and fight for our basic rights, we will continue to lose more ground. As quickly as public acceptance of queers has grown over the last decade or so, just as quickly can it vanish.
So let's take a moment to remember why we are activists for our causes.
MJ
PS. . . Don't forget the "Brother can you Spare a Dime" campaign going on now through September 17th. Also there is only 2 days remaining before Cleve Jones talk in Chicago on the Struggle for LGBT civil rights and the National Equality March. Please buy your ticket in advance for only $5 to ensure you get a seat. The doors to Victory Gardens Theater will open at 5:30 and seating is first come, first served. VG will have their cash bar opened to attendees and there will be a live DJ to entertain. TICKETS AVAILABLE AT: http://www.haymarketbooks.org/event.php?id=21.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
The Battle For Gay Equality
First off, I want to apologize for not posting on here since last Wednesday, I meant to write a short post to warn my readers that I was going to be out of town and would not have internet access where I was going. When I returned late Monday night, I did have the best of attentions to put up a post on Tuesday. But thanks to my infection in my mouth, I was in so much pain yesterday that I did not get a post up. Today I am going to post an argumentative paper I just wrote for my English Compassion course. The objective of the paper was to argue your side of a situation. I choose gay equality. Please let me know what you think.
The Battle For Gay Equality
Lately, you are unable to pick up a newspaper or watch the news without hearing about gay marriage. Although supporters for a ban on gay marriage believe that marriage should only be between a man and a woman, same-sex partners deserve the same benefits as their straight counter-parts. People throw the word marriage around like it is worth it’s weight in gold, but marriage is really only a word. What the Gay and Lesbian community is fighting for is to stop being treated like second class citizens. Most of our past president’s have only touched gay equality when it mattered to them yet the Obama Administration is finally coming out against the Defence of Marriage Act (DOMA). Most people think that Gay equality is only about "marriage" but it is about being able receive the federal benefits that straight people receive.
Gay rights has always been a low priority in politics. For most candidates, they only throw this issue out during an election year only, yet advocates for the gay rights movement are stating cautiously that it seems obvious to most people that denying same-sex married couples the same federal protection then those of opposite-sex married couples is discrimination, yet having the Obama Administration admitting that DOMA is wrong is a promising sign(1). The Obama Administration recently came out and said that once again it will do everything in it's power to overturn DOMA. If the President is starting to make strives toward equality for everyone shouldn't we?
Another side effect of not having gay equality is that partners of gay or lesbian people cannot honor the wishes of their partner when something tragic happens. There is no guarantee that the partner’s would be able to stay by their lover’s side to provide comfort during hospital stays. Even if two gay men or two lesbian woman have been together for 20 years, they do not have legal rights to make any hospital decisions or even visitation rights to the person they spent their life with. .
Finally, even though gay or lesbian people are loving partners whom are committed to each other doesn’t mean they get the same federal benefits as those who are straight. Since gay and lesbian couples can not file their taxes jointly, they tend to pay more in taxes then their straight counterparts. Dean Hara, widower of the former congressman Gerry Studds was denied any of Studds’s federal pension. On Advicote.com Dean Hara was quoted saying, “I am not being treated the same as any other surviving spouse of any other federal employee or public servant who has served this country for 27 years, when I have been legally married,” (2). How can our government deny federal rights to all people regardless of sexual orientation.
Gay equality is making movements forward with the Obama administration talking about taking steps to over turning DOMA. Yet, until all people get the same federal benefits, the battle isn’t over.
MJ
1. Anonymous, 2009. United States: Still waiting; Gay-marriage laws. The Economist, Vol. 392, Iss 8645; pg 28. Retrieved August 23rd, 2009, from ProQuest database.
2. Garcia, M.(2009, March 4). Mass. Couples Sue for Federal Rights. Advocate.com Retrieved August 23rd, 2009, from http://current.com/1312m4c
The Battle For Gay Equality
Lately, you are unable to pick up a newspaper or watch the news without hearing about gay marriage. Although supporters for a ban on gay marriage believe that marriage should only be between a man and a woman, same-sex partners deserve the same benefits as their straight counter-parts. People throw the word marriage around like it is worth it’s weight in gold, but marriage is really only a word. What the Gay and Lesbian community is fighting for is to stop being treated like second class citizens. Most of our past president’s have only touched gay equality when it mattered to them yet the Obama Administration is finally coming out against the Defence of Marriage Act (DOMA). Most people think that Gay equality is only about "marriage" but it is about being able receive the federal benefits that straight people receive.
Gay rights has always been a low priority in politics. For most candidates, they only throw this issue out during an election year only, yet advocates for the gay rights movement are stating cautiously that it seems obvious to most people that denying same-sex married couples the same federal protection then those of opposite-sex married couples is discrimination, yet having the Obama Administration admitting that DOMA is wrong is a promising sign(1). The Obama Administration recently came out and said that once again it will do everything in it's power to overturn DOMA. If the President is starting to make strives toward equality for everyone shouldn't we?
Another side effect of not having gay equality is that partners of gay or lesbian people cannot honor the wishes of their partner when something tragic happens. There is no guarantee that the partner’s would be able to stay by their lover’s side to provide comfort during hospital stays. Even if two gay men or two lesbian woman have been together for 20 years, they do not have legal rights to make any hospital decisions or even visitation rights to the person they spent their life with. .
Finally, even though gay or lesbian people are loving partners whom are committed to each other doesn’t mean they get the same federal benefits as those who are straight. Since gay and lesbian couples can not file their taxes jointly, they tend to pay more in taxes then their straight counterparts. Dean Hara, widower of the former congressman Gerry Studds was denied any of Studds’s federal pension. On Advicote.com Dean Hara was quoted saying, “I am not being treated the same as any other surviving spouse of any other federal employee or public servant who has served this country for 27 years, when I have been legally married,” (2). How can our government deny federal rights to all people regardless of sexual orientation.
Gay equality is making movements forward with the Obama administration talking about taking steps to over turning DOMA. Yet, until all people get the same federal benefits, the battle isn’t over.
MJ
1. Anonymous, 2009. United States: Still waiting; Gay-marriage laws. The Economist, Vol. 392, Iss 8645; pg 28. Retrieved August 23rd, 2009, from ProQuest database.
2. Garcia, M.(2009, March 4). Mass. Couples Sue for Federal Rights. Advocate.com Retrieved August 23rd, 2009, from http://current.com/1312m4c
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Equal Rights Vs. Religious Right
Today at lunch, I was surfing the web and I came across a headline that grabbed my attention. Headline reads; Minneapolis pastor: Tornado was a warning to Lutherans on gay inclusion. It didn’t take Pastor John Piper of the Minneapolis’ Bethlehem Baptist Church long to blame Wednesday’s tornado, that hit parts of Minneapolis, on homosexuality. He believed that God sent this tornado as a warning to the Lutherans to tell them not to relax doctrine related to homosexuality.
The Pastor also used his time in the press to get the word out about his church’s blog, where he wrote; “The unrepentant practice of homosexual behavior (like other sins) will exclude a person from the Kingdom of God.” He defends this by quoting 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 which states; “The unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
First off I want to point out the original King James Bible or any earlier versions of the bible use the word “homosexuality” in the Scripture. The King James versions reads; “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.” Please point out to me where the word ‘homosexual” appears in that passage.
But I do get it, most religious right people build their case against homosexuality almost entirely on what they read in the Bible. Unfortunately, over the years words have been added to change the meaning of these verses like in the above example.
I also know that many of these religious right people have never really studied what the Bible does and doesn't say about homosexuality. Yet the assumption that the Bible condemns homosexuality is passed down from generation to generation with very little personal study or research. The consequences of this misinformation are disastrous.
Most people simply find a text that seems to support their prejudice and then spend the rest of their lives quoting (or misquoting) that text.
But I am here to tell you that no matter what some people believe the Bible says about homosexuality, they must not use that belief to deny homosexuals their basic civil rights. To discriminate against sexual or gender minorities is unjust and un-American.
Please consider; the United States is not a nation governed by the Bible. Our nation is governed by the Constitution and the Bill of Rights. Our laws were created to protect an individual's right to disagree. If the Bible (or someone's view of the Bible) replaces the Constitution as the law of the land, we undermine the great foundation upon which this country was built.
I’m asking you who disagree with my stand on homosexuality to support my stand on full civil rights for all people, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Americans.
MJ
The Pastor also used his time in the press to get the word out about his church’s blog, where he wrote; “The unrepentant practice of homosexual behavior (like other sins) will exclude a person from the Kingdom of God.” He defends this by quoting 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 which states; “The unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
First off I want to point out the original King James Bible or any earlier versions of the bible use the word “homosexuality” in the Scripture. The King James versions reads; “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.” Please point out to me where the word ‘homosexual” appears in that passage.
But I do get it, most religious right people build their case against homosexuality almost entirely on what they read in the Bible. Unfortunately, over the years words have been added to change the meaning of these verses like in the above example.
I also know that many of these religious right people have never really studied what the Bible does and doesn't say about homosexuality. Yet the assumption that the Bible condemns homosexuality is passed down from generation to generation with very little personal study or research. The consequences of this misinformation are disastrous.
Most people simply find a text that seems to support their prejudice and then spend the rest of their lives quoting (or misquoting) that text.
But I am here to tell you that no matter what some people believe the Bible says about homosexuality, they must not use that belief to deny homosexuals their basic civil rights. To discriminate against sexual or gender minorities is unjust and un-American.
Please consider; the United States is not a nation governed by the Bible. Our nation is governed by the Constitution and the Bill of Rights. Our laws were created to protect an individual's right to disagree. If the Bible (or someone's view of the Bible) replaces the Constitution as the law of the land, we undermine the great foundation upon which this country was built.
I’m asking you who disagree with my stand on homosexuality to support my stand on full civil rights for all people, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Americans.
MJ
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
President Obama Flip-Flops on DOMA Again!!!
Only a year ago, we all thought where Barack Obama stood on gay issues and we cheered and stood behind him and supported him along the road to the presidency. Now a year later you try to get Barack Obama to talk about where he stands on these same issues and you get silence.
And us (the LGBTQ community) stand also in silence trying to understand exactly the Obama Administration really stands on whether gays and lesbians should enjoy equal marriage rights. We all know that the President has stated his opposition to marriage equality many times in the past. He also stated that he was going to overturn DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) when he became President, yet it is still in effect.
Lets look at some of the things he has done that confuse me;
First, he invited a singer named Donnie McClurkin to perform at some of his events. Donnie is very vocal that he believes that homosexuality can be changed by praying to Jesus Christ. I just want to say that homosexuality isn’t something one can change about yourself. You can try and pretend that you are no longer gay, but that is all you are doing, PRETENDING!!!!
Next, you got the Administration who represent President Obama. They showed their true colors right after Obama was elected President and a gay couple from California sued to have DOMA overturned. The Obama Administration defended the law by stating that “courts have widely held that certain marriages performed elsewhere need not be given effect, because they conflicted with … public policy.” The Justice Department then offered some examples: “marriage of uncle to niece” and “marriage of first cousins.” When I heard these examples, my jaw hit the floor. The love of two consenting adults of the same sex was being compared to incest (well at least we moved up from bestiality). My second thought was that the comment about “marriage of uncle to niece” is about heterosexual marriages and then should be used as an example of why heterosexual marriages should be outlawed.
Then this week, President Obama’s Administration released a new legal brief, where Mr. Obama flip-flops again – now he is back on the side of his original campaign promises. The Administration that compared us to people who would commit incest, now states that they oppose DOMA and want to have it over turned. Why did Obama have the Department of Justice defend the DOMA case in the first place. There is nothing in the constitution or even a law that would have prevented them from sitting on the sidelines in that case. It all is part of the game called Politics. . .
Obama needs to watch his flip-flopping on big issues like this, because when it comes time for him to raise political donations; he will lose his standing among the rich homosexuals who once backed him. So a word to the wise Obama, pick a side and stick to it. You will never please everyone.
MJ
PS: Please don’t forget about the “Brother can you spare a dime” campaign. Just click the donate button on the left side of the screen.
And us (the LGBTQ community) stand also in silence trying to understand exactly the Obama Administration really stands on whether gays and lesbians should enjoy equal marriage rights. We all know that the President has stated his opposition to marriage equality many times in the past. He also stated that he was going to overturn DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) when he became President, yet it is still in effect.
Lets look at some of the things he has done that confuse me;
First, he invited a singer named Donnie McClurkin to perform at some of his events. Donnie is very vocal that he believes that homosexuality can be changed by praying to Jesus Christ. I just want to say that homosexuality isn’t something one can change about yourself. You can try and pretend that you are no longer gay, but that is all you are doing, PRETENDING!!!!
Next, you got the Administration who represent President Obama. They showed their true colors right after Obama was elected President and a gay couple from California sued to have DOMA overturned. The Obama Administration defended the law by stating that “courts have widely held that certain marriages performed elsewhere need not be given effect, because they conflicted with … public policy.” The Justice Department then offered some examples: “marriage of uncle to niece” and “marriage of first cousins.” When I heard these examples, my jaw hit the floor. The love of two consenting adults of the same sex was being compared to incest (well at least we moved up from bestiality). My second thought was that the comment about “marriage of uncle to niece” is about heterosexual marriages and then should be used as an example of why heterosexual marriages should be outlawed.
Then this week, President Obama’s Administration released a new legal brief, where Mr. Obama flip-flops again – now he is back on the side of his original campaign promises. The Administration that compared us to people who would commit incest, now states that they oppose DOMA and want to have it over turned. Why did Obama have the Department of Justice defend the DOMA case in the first place. There is nothing in the constitution or even a law that would have prevented them from sitting on the sidelines in that case. It all is part of the game called Politics. . .
Obama needs to watch his flip-flopping on big issues like this, because when it comes time for him to raise political donations; he will lose his standing among the rich homosexuals who once backed him. So a word to the wise Obama, pick a side and stick to it. You will never please everyone.
MJ
PS: Please don’t forget about the “Brother can you spare a dime” campaign. Just click the donate button on the left side of the screen.
Monday, August 17, 2009
Brother Can You Spare A Dme?
I know times are tough and we are in a recession,but brother or sister can you spare a dime? It's easy to do --- see the button that says donate under Join The Impact Chicago on the left side of your screen, just click it and donate. I am not asking for hundreds of dollars here, just a small donation. All the proceeds raised from this go directly to providing buses for the March on Washington. I don'tt need the donations till September 17th (Which is a Thursday). And even if you can't contribute very much, please remember that every little bit helps.
How much does it matter? That's for you to decide. In my opinion, there is nothing at stake here except our future.
MJ
How much does it matter? That's for you to decide. In my opinion, there is nothing at stake here except our future.
MJ
Friday, August 14, 2009
What is Equality California Thinking?!?
I was stunned this morning when I read my friends facebook status about Equality California’s decision to throw their political weight behind an initiative for the presidential election in 2012 instead of the original plan to put an ballot initiative out in 2010. Don’t they understand that by doing this they are sending a message to people that this issue really isn’t that important and can wait.
Well I am here to tell you that even though I am not a Californian, this news disturbs me as much as my friends in California. I sat there this morning wondering how I was going to work this set back into my blog today. Then it hit me like a brick. Why are we focusing on a minor set back on a state level when we got a wonderful national event coming up in October.
Yeah, I am going to talk more about the National Equality March on Washington DC in October.
What is the National Equality March?
On October 10-11, 2009, the LGBTQ community and our supporters (yes that means you heterosexuals) from all over this great country of ours will gather in Washington, D.C. to let Barack Obama and the Congress of the United States now that it is time for full equal rights for LGBTQ people.
It is a chance for LGBTQ and supports from all across this wonderful country of ours to gather, strategize, march and leave energized and empowered to do the work that needs to be done to get the fight moving for our Equal Rights!!! Remember that this march is only the beginning. After we all return home we need to use the network of contacts we built in Washington DC and continue organizing and fighting for our rights beyond October.
“We will continue this fight in every state, in every county, every city and every town, but we are now determined to take this fight to the federal government, to our President Barack Obama, to the Congress and the Supreme Court of the United States.” - Cleve Jones
On a side note. . .
I want to remind everyone that if you are in or around the Chicagoland area, to stop by either the Cloudgate Sculpture aka “The Bean” in Millennium Park or Scoville Park in Oak Park at for the Nationwide Kiss In at 1pm this Saturday. If you are outside the Chicagoland area and wish to attend please check out http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=124199360752 and look for a Kiss In near you.
Also next week I will be starting a campaign called ‘Brother can you spare a dime’ so keep your eyes open for that.
MJ
Well I am here to tell you that even though I am not a Californian, this news disturbs me as much as my friends in California. I sat there this morning wondering how I was going to work this set back into my blog today. Then it hit me like a brick. Why are we focusing on a minor set back on a state level when we got a wonderful national event coming up in October.
Yeah, I am going to talk more about the National Equality March on Washington DC in October.
What is the National Equality March?
On October 10-11, 2009, the LGBTQ community and our supporters (yes that means you heterosexuals) from all over this great country of ours will gather in Washington, D.C. to let Barack Obama and the Congress of the United States now that it is time for full equal rights for LGBTQ people.
It is a chance for LGBTQ and supports from all across this wonderful country of ours to gather, strategize, march and leave energized and empowered to do the work that needs to be done to get the fight moving for our Equal Rights!!! Remember that this march is only the beginning. After we all return home we need to use the network of contacts we built in Washington DC and continue organizing and fighting for our rights beyond October.
“We will continue this fight in every state, in every county, every city and every town, but we are now determined to take this fight to the federal government, to our President Barack Obama, to the Congress and the Supreme Court of the United States.” - Cleve Jones
On a side note. . .
I want to remind everyone that if you are in or around the Chicagoland area, to stop by either the Cloudgate Sculpture aka “The Bean” in Millennium Park or Scoville Park in Oak Park at for the Nationwide Kiss In at 1pm this Saturday. If you are outside the Chicagoland area and wish to attend please check out http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=124199360752 and look for a Kiss In near you.
Also next week I will be starting a campaign called ‘Brother can you spare a dime’ so keep your eyes open for that.
MJ
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Why am I marching in October?
Why are you marching for gay marriage if your partner does not believe in it?
One of my friends asked me this question the other day and I decided to respond to their question on my blog. The reason for my response on here and not to their personal email is because I wanted everyone to know the answer to this question. First thing I want to clear up is the march in October isn’t a march for gay marriage.
No, this march is so much more then that. It is to put a public spotlight on the fact that we are not second class citizens and we demand the same federal rights as our straight counterparts. It is to fight to overturn “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”, so those members who are LGBTQ and serving in our country’s Armed Forces are not dishonorable discharged from service. It is to help stop the beating and the killing of LGBTQ people on the streets of their hometowns. This march is to help ensure that ENDA (Employment Non-Discrimination Act) passes so people don’t lose their jobs just because they are LGBTQ. It is also to ensure that partners of LGBTQ people can honor the wishes of their partner I something tragic was to happen. It is to guarantee that the partners of someone who is hospitalized is able to stay by their lover’s side to provide comfort.
So now that I went on a rant about the march, let me get to the fact that my partner is against gay marriage. To his defense, he isn’t against gays having the same federal benefits as our straight counterparts. He is against the concept of marriage. To him marriage is a religious right and nothing to do with federal rights.
Now with that said, he did say that even if we were able to get gay marriages legalized in the United States that he would not have one is a different issue. For when he told me this, my heart shattered. I dreamt of having a wedding and sharing the trails and triumphs we faced with our friends and family on that special day. But when those words came out of his mouth, my dreams just crumbled before me. I sat there in shock, I did not know what to do. For a while I listened to friends and family telling me not to worry about it, because gay marriage would never be legalized in my life time. I almost convinced myself to believe them, but then Iowa legalized gay marriage.
I thought to myself and decided that just because my partner doesn’t believe in this issue, that doesn’t mean I have to stop believing in it. For you see just because you are in a relationship, does not mean you to agree on the same issues. I agree that this is a big issue to disagree on, and who knows maybe it will be the nail in the coffin that ends a wonderful relationship. Only time can tell. . .
But for now I am going to continue to fight for all the rights that this march is about. Not only for myself, but also for the future generations to come. I once was told that one person can not change the world. But here I am, just one voice whispering in the wind hoping that I convince one person to make a difference.
Do you hear my voice?
MJ
One of my friends asked me this question the other day and I decided to respond to their question on my blog. The reason for my response on here and not to their personal email is because I wanted everyone to know the answer to this question. First thing I want to clear up is the march in October isn’t a march for gay marriage.
No, this march is so much more then that. It is to put a public spotlight on the fact that we are not second class citizens and we demand the same federal rights as our straight counterparts. It is to fight to overturn “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”, so those members who are LGBTQ and serving in our country’s Armed Forces are not dishonorable discharged from service. It is to help stop the beating and the killing of LGBTQ people on the streets of their hometowns. This march is to help ensure that ENDA (Employment Non-Discrimination Act) passes so people don’t lose their jobs just because they are LGBTQ. It is also to ensure that partners of LGBTQ people can honor the wishes of their partner I something tragic was to happen. It is to guarantee that the partners of someone who is hospitalized is able to stay by their lover’s side to provide comfort.
So now that I went on a rant about the march, let me get to the fact that my partner is against gay marriage. To his defense, he isn’t against gays having the same federal benefits as our straight counterparts. He is against the concept of marriage. To him marriage is a religious right and nothing to do with federal rights.
Now with that said, he did say that even if we were able to get gay marriages legalized in the United States that he would not have one is a different issue. For when he told me this, my heart shattered. I dreamt of having a wedding and sharing the trails and triumphs we faced with our friends and family on that special day. But when those words came out of his mouth, my dreams just crumbled before me. I sat there in shock, I did not know what to do. For a while I listened to friends and family telling me not to worry about it, because gay marriage would never be legalized in my life time. I almost convinced myself to believe them, but then Iowa legalized gay marriage.
I thought to myself and decided that just because my partner doesn’t believe in this issue, that doesn’t mean I have to stop believing in it. For you see just because you are in a relationship, does not mean you to agree on the same issues. I agree that this is a big issue to disagree on, and who knows maybe it will be the nail in the coffin that ends a wonderful relationship. Only time can tell. . .
But for now I am going to continue to fight for all the rights that this march is about. Not only for myself, but also for the future generations to come. I once was told that one person can not change the world. But here I am, just one voice whispering in the wind hoping that I convince one person to make a difference.
Do you hear my voice?
MJ
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Fundraiser at Glenwood
This is going to be a short but sweet blog today. I am meeting with Renee, the owner of The Glenwood bar in the city. I am going to be working on setting up a fundraiser for Join The Impact and the Equality March on Washington DC. Wish me luck since this my first time taking charge and trying to arrange such an event.
MJ
MJ
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
An Evening with Cleve Jones:The History and Struggle for LGBT Civil Rights
I am proud to announce that Join the Impact Chicago, along with Young Chicago Authors, Haymarket Books, Victory Gardens Theater, and Chicago Public Radio WBEZ 91.5 will be host Cleve Jones to Chicago on August 29th, 2009
Who is Cleve Jones?
Cleve Jones is an activist who’s been fighting this battle since the turbulent 1970’s in San Francisco alongside pioneer gay rights leader Harvey Milk. Cleve became one of the first people to recognize the true threat of AIDS, so he co-founded the San Francisco AIDS Foundation in 1983. When he was at a candlelight memorial in 1985 for Harvey Milk. Cleve conceived the idea of making a quilt as a form of remembering those who were lost to AIDS. In 1987, Cleve created the first quilt panel for the AIDS Memorial Quilt in memory of his close friend Marvin Feldman. The AIDS Memorial Quilt has grown to become the world’s largest community arts project, it now memorializes the lives of over 80,000 Americans (Gay and Straight) whom have passed due to AIDS. Nowadays, Cleve travels extensively across the United States and around the world, giving lectures at high schools, colleges, universities and other forms of gatherings. The latest project that Cleve Jones is working on is the National Equality March in Washington D.C. this October 11th.
Why Now?
The Obama administration promised to be a “fierce advocate” for equality for gays and lesbians. Yet even after over a hundred days in office, these promises continue to go unfulfilled. I am not only talking about over turning the Defense of Marriage Act but also Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Cleve Jones along with other activist from across the country decided it was time for us to make our voices heard. So the National Equality March was born as a way for us to show mass support for LGBT rights.
How can I get involved?
If you are in the Chicagoland area, you can attend “An Evening with Clive Jones: The History and Struggle for LGBT Civil Rights” on August 29, 2009 from 6:00pm – 8:00pm at the Victory Gardens Theater (2433 N. Lincoln Ave). It will only cost you a suggested donation of $5; you can donate more if you like because all proceeds will go to help fund buses to send people locally to the National March on Washington DC. The evening will feature Cleve Jones and performance pieces from Young Chicago Authors on the theme of LGBT rights, including the poem “The Pink Triangle” which was the winning poem of the Louder Than A Bomb: The Chicago Teen Poetry Festival.
Tickets are now available at http://www.haymarketbooks.org/event.php?id=21. (Day of tickets will be available, but reservations are strongly encouraged as space is limited. Buy your tickets securely online via PayPal).
MJ
Who is Cleve Jones?
Cleve Jones is an activist who’s been fighting this battle since the turbulent 1970’s in San Francisco alongside pioneer gay rights leader Harvey Milk. Cleve became one of the first people to recognize the true threat of AIDS, so he co-founded the San Francisco AIDS Foundation in 1983. When he was at a candlelight memorial in 1985 for Harvey Milk. Cleve conceived the idea of making a quilt as a form of remembering those who were lost to AIDS. In 1987, Cleve created the first quilt panel for the AIDS Memorial Quilt in memory of his close friend Marvin Feldman. The AIDS Memorial Quilt has grown to become the world’s largest community arts project, it now memorializes the lives of over 80,000 Americans (Gay and Straight) whom have passed due to AIDS. Nowadays, Cleve travels extensively across the United States and around the world, giving lectures at high schools, colleges, universities and other forms of gatherings. The latest project that Cleve Jones is working on is the National Equality March in Washington D.C. this October 11th.
Why Now?
The Obama administration promised to be a “fierce advocate” for equality for gays and lesbians. Yet even after over a hundred days in office, these promises continue to go unfulfilled. I am not only talking about over turning the Defense of Marriage Act but also Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Cleve Jones along with other activist from across the country decided it was time for us to make our voices heard. So the National Equality March was born as a way for us to show mass support for LGBT rights.
How can I get involved?
If you are in the Chicagoland area, you can attend “An Evening with Clive Jones: The History and Struggle for LGBT Civil Rights” on August 29, 2009 from 6:00pm – 8:00pm at the Victory Gardens Theater (2433 N. Lincoln Ave). It will only cost you a suggested donation of $5; you can donate more if you like because all proceeds will go to help fund buses to send people locally to the National March on Washington DC. The evening will feature Cleve Jones and performance pieces from Young Chicago Authors on the theme of LGBT rights, including the poem “The Pink Triangle” which was the winning poem of the Louder Than A Bomb: The Chicago Teen Poetry Festival.
Tickets are now available at http://www.haymarketbooks.org/event.php?id=21. (Day of tickets will be available, but reservations are strongly encouraged as space is limited. Buy your tickets securely online via PayPal).
MJ
Monday, August 10, 2009
The Great Nationwide Kiss In
How would you of liked to been harassed or even detained by local law enforcement for just simply kissing your partner? Well these happened to three different gay and lesbian couples. At first when I heard the first news story I was like this is just some local cop trying to make a name for themselves. But then the second and third news story came about and I was amazed. And it wasn’t like all three events happened in the same town. Far from it, they took place in San Antonio, Tx, El Paso, Tx and Salt Lake City, UT.
Two bloggers named David Badash and David Mailloux believed that people regardless of sexual orientation should be able to kiss whomever they please, whenever they please. So they decided along with Willow Witte and the national Join The Impact group to coordinate a national event on August 15, 2009 at 2 p.m., EDT (or 11 a.m., PDT). They are calling it “The Great Nationwide Kiss-In” and everyone is invited regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
I know some of you are thinking “What is a Kiss-In”? It’s quite simple really. On the date and time suggested, people will bring there spouse or partner or boyfriend or girlfriend or even your best friend to a designated public place and you kiss. It is the most simplest thing you will ever do.
Why are we doing this? We need to finally make a bold statement to everyone across the nation that kissing isn’t a bad thing, nor has it ever been. Kissing is not a vulgar act or even considered inappropriate. It is just a sign of affection one person passes on to someone special in their lives.
If you are in or around the Chicago land area, there are two locations for you to choose from. The first one is at the Cloudgate Sculpture aka “The Bean” in Millennium Park which is being sponsored by an organization I am proud to say I am a member of, which is Join The Impact Chicago (http://www.jointheimpactchicago.com/). The second location is out in Oak Park at Scoville Park (http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=115130357898). If you are outside the Chicagoland area and wish to attend please check out http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=124199360752 and look for a Kiss-In near you.
If you come to the event at the Cloudgate Sculpture and are also interested in getting more information about the National Equality March in Washington DC this October 11th or would like to purchase a bus ticket for the March for $100, please come see me or find another representative from Join The Impact and we will answer any questions you have.
Thanks for taking the time and reading my blog One Voice Whispering in the Wind. Please comment or e-mail me to let me know if you plan to attend. Or even just to let me know you took the time to read my blog.
MJ
Two bloggers named David Badash and David Mailloux believed that people regardless of sexual orientation should be able to kiss whomever they please, whenever they please. So they decided along with Willow Witte and the national Join The Impact group to coordinate a national event on August 15, 2009 at 2 p.m., EDT (or 11 a.m., PDT). They are calling it “The Great Nationwide Kiss-In” and everyone is invited regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
I know some of you are thinking “What is a Kiss-In”? It’s quite simple really. On the date and time suggested, people will bring there spouse or partner or boyfriend or girlfriend or even your best friend to a designated public place and you kiss. It is the most simplest thing you will ever do.
Why are we doing this? We need to finally make a bold statement to everyone across the nation that kissing isn’t a bad thing, nor has it ever been. Kissing is not a vulgar act or even considered inappropriate. It is just a sign of affection one person passes on to someone special in their lives.
If you are in or around the Chicago land area, there are two locations for you to choose from. The first one is at the Cloudgate Sculpture aka “The Bean” in Millennium Park which is being sponsored by an organization I am proud to say I am a member of, which is Join The Impact Chicago (http://www.jointheimpactchicago.com/). The second location is out in Oak Park at Scoville Park (http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=115130357898). If you are outside the Chicagoland area and wish to attend please check out http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=124199360752 and look for a Kiss-In near you.
If you come to the event at the Cloudgate Sculpture and are also interested in getting more information about the National Equality March in Washington DC this October 11th or would like to purchase a bus ticket for the March for $100, please come see me or find another representative from Join The Impact and we will answer any questions you have.
Thanks for taking the time and reading my blog One Voice Whispering in the Wind. Please comment or e-mail me to let me know if you plan to attend. Or even just to let me know you took the time to read my blog.
MJ
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